Hey guys, long time no see, I know I haven’t uploaded a blog post in a while now, but the truth is I’ve been really un-inspired. I have been contemplating what to write about for weeks now, so my Dad suggested I talk about a subject not so common on my blog… that topic would be losing a loved one.
On February 6th, 2019, I felt a feeling I had never felt before. I found out after school that day that the most positive, encouraging, and charismatic person I ever knew had died. This person was not only my Grandpa, but was also a man that had touched the lives of any person he had met.
I know most of you have never met my Grandpa, but if you would of had the opportunity to have just one conversation with him, you would walk out of it with a genuine smile on your face…
He lived his whole life making other people feel good about themselves, and he has always inspired me to always look at the bright side of any situation. My biggest hope is to someday accomplish the mindset that he had on life, and to impact as many people as he did throughout my own life.
Losing him has probably been one of the hardest experiences in my life, but even as hard as it is, I knew he would want my family to not be sad. He wanted his funeral to be a joyful celebration of his life, and wanted it to be positive and up lifting. They even ended off the funeral with the Penn State fight song because they knew he would have wanted that.
Throughout this post, you could probably see the most common word I have used is positive, and that’s because I truly believe he is the most positive person this world has ever seen. Even in the times he had been in pain, he was still finding ways to make the people around him feel good about themselves.
I always knew he had impacted so many people, but when I saw and heard the stories of the people he had impacted, I learned just how big of an influence he was. My favorite story had to be from his obituary condolences though. Someone said they had met him for the first time at Dunkin Donuts where he talked to him and his wife like he had known them for years. Then my Grandpa proceeded to tell the man to always be good to his wife, this touched the man and they said they were gonna have a coffee in honor of him.
Death is a hard thing, and unfortunately it will always be a hard thing. I know anyone that has ever lost a loved one, never thought about the day they would have to say goodbye, but even though in the moment it is so hard, it will eventually get better. I am so blessed to have so many amazing memories to look back of my Grandpa. And even my blog will be a happy memory of him because he loved calling all of us grandchildren by our first and middle name. My whole life he has called me Ashlyn Kate, and that’s part of the reason why my blog is named Ashlyn Kate xo.
If you have experienced losing someone one recently, or even if you lost someone years ago just know my heart goes out to you and I know how you feel, but just surround your self with those who love you and try to stay positive. Many people at the funeral told my siblings and I that we have big shoes to fill, and trust me we know it! I intend to honor my Grandpa by trying to always look at the bright side, and to try to positively impact everyone I meet.
Thank you guys so much for reading,
xoxo- Ashlyn Kate